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Creative authority : convening a 'just conversation'
Passive authority is not able to do this. The only way to affirm the dignity of a human being is to give him or her the room and space to tell their story. This is also at the very heart of forgiving.
2 Passive authority in organisations
In today's world, what kind of authority is required to affirm the dignity of other human beings? US President Bush spoke eloquently in his State of the Union Address (29.1.02):
Yet many organisations rely heavily on what can be called 'passive' authority. For example, in a simple dialogue in the long-running comedy series Spin City, the nerdish James says to the rakish Stuart, "You cant do that!" "Why not?" "Its not allowed." Most of us have this kind of conversation all the time, often inside our own heads! Institutional attitudes coalesce around such norms - largely unread and sometimes unwritten codes of behaviour which have got into our social fabric.
They usually appear to be negative because we only think to mention them when someone infringes one. Passive authority is the kind of authority we grow up with at school, and it drives most businesses and almost all professional establishments.
The US government is particularly concerned at the moment to protect "the American way of life" - and readers of this e-letter in Canada, Britain, Australia, and South Africa may recognise that their own governments can speak in an equally 'moral' and defensive tone. Unless the country sees its values and way of life as in crisis, political leaders seek popularity by staking their claim to passive authority.
(Aspects of power and authority are explored more fully in ForgivenessNet's feature article The power to initiate forgiveness.)
3 The rebel
It means that the internal images we have of someone exhibiting a different kind of authority tend to be ambiguous, and rather misleading. Martin Luther's example launched a pattern of schism, whereby great leaders find they have to leave one organisation and found a new one. In popular twentieth-century culture, Camus' outsider, or Che Guevara, or the lone good gunman in countless western movies, or Star Wars' Luke Skywalker or Lord of the Rings' Frodo, exhibit an authority which is not creative, but resilient, measured by its negative impact on a negative system or institution.
Perhaps the central attraction of the crime genre in literature and film is that an individual can achieve a kind of moral stature, briefly, by "bringing someone down" as if this were all "justice" entails. Initially this meant bringing a 'clearly bad' person to arrest and trial. In today's more sophisticated culture, we know that there are as many criminals inside the criminal justice system as without. Therefore the genre now includes as many examples of a small, good-hearted figure (for example Sylvester Stallone's mesmerising performance as Sheriff Freddie Heflin in James Mangold's brilliant 1997 movie Copland) finding the courage to "nail" or "take down" corrupt and powerful police officers in league with the Mob or profiteering business interests.
4 Creative leadership
Yet there are examples of a different kind of authority. One of the great signs of creative authority is actually at the real core of forgiving - creating or convening a space where 'just conversation' can occur. Carly Fiorina, the CEO of Hewlett-Packard, touched on this in an address to MIT:
One of the greatest books of spirituality in the last century was Reaching Out, by Henri Nouwen. Nouwen identified a framework of three journeys or growths in human spirituality, which have resonated with many of us ever since. Perhaps the most fertile of all was the "movement from hostility to hospitality." What he said about hospitality was:
In Nouwen's hospitable space, people tell their stories. There is always some unresolved issue, some enmity, between people, waiting to surface when triggered. Yet here, enemies become friends. The wrongdoer has the same space as the wronged. The aim of the space or court is to assist listening and understanding, not nailing someone or allowing the wrongdoer to achieve revenge on his or her accusers.
The host - the convener of the space - does not bring people to his or her point of view (say the "American way of life" or the "British way of life"), but trusts that the mutuality of meeting will have a spirit-changing effect on all.
There are always good reasons, complexities, mutual responsibilities for what went wrong, damaging responses to an initial wrong, and so on. As we hear a wrongdoer, or an accuser, or a victim, tell his or her story, we see aspects of their inner dignity and worth, and it becomes more conceivable to forgive them and begin a new relationship with them.
Jo Tufnell, the daughter of one of the British politicians killed in the 1984 Brighton bombing by the IRA, began to recount her experiences at victims' workshops, and met a senior Sinn Fein representative. She says, "He heard my story and I heard his. It was another bridge being built." She asked to meet the chief bomber Patrick Magee (released in 1999 under the Good Friday agreement), and did in Dublin in November 2000. Jo said in a recent BBC interview,
5 Inside the hierarchy
Nouwen nonetheless wrote within a hierarchy - the Roman Catholic Church - which relies heavily on passive authority, and not only in the Vatican. The dominant expectation of priesthood in the church - excepting some in Latin America - is passive, acquiescent within the ecclesial system. The expectation stems from parishioners as well as the hierarchy, and the history of the parish system in the West has had a profound influence on the small-mindedness (='parochial' world-view) of mainline church religion. Inoffensive, self-effacing, helpful in domestic matters, family concerns, losses, etc. - this is what is expected! So Nouwen did not think - or wish - to explore the kind of personal leadership required to hold open such hospitable space in his church or in political arenas.
When forgiveness becomes an issue in wounded relationships, it is often not clear who should make the first step. Even for a hurt party to pronounce forgiveness can seem like unjust arrogance, if the hurt party's inadequate responses seem to have contributed to the present impasse! When relationships have broken down, everyone becomes hurt, and we approach a meeting with defensiveness, even fear. Creative leadership takes the initiative, and invites all parties into an hospitable space.
Nonetheless, Nouwen carefully and brilliantly explored this creative role of making space in the 'safer' areas of parenting, teaching, and medical care. Parents who view their children as guests; teachers who listen for what new insight their pupils have to offer; healers who, while bringing expertise to bear in one area, allow their patients to sometimes empathise with other parts of their own lives.
As for the more controversial aspect of community and political leadership - well, this is less familiar to us. Indeed South Africa's Truth and Reconciliation Commission is still the only high-profile example of it.
6 Mandela and Tutu
It is impossible to conceive of the Truth and Reconciliation Commission without thinking of two charismatic and boundlessly creative human beings - Nelson Mandela and Desmond Tutu. Chief Justice Ismail Mahomed was among the formative influences in the initial stages, but Tutu's chairing of the Commission gave it extraordinary authority in action.
A colleague from Sierra Leone told me that when Tutu chaired the African Council of Churches, he would sometimes suddenly interrupt a difficult dispute among members by inviting them to join him in silent prayer - sometimes quite long! Most participants somehow seemed to have changed their viewpoint when the meeting resumed. He created space in which enemies could become friends.
As for Nelson Mandela, Tutu writes:
Such personal strength and goodness in leadership does not guarantee forgiveness. Tutu was always aware how much it could "blow up in our faces". But it does empower, reassure and sustain those who tell their story and admit their guilt - on all sides - that they may leave with dignity. It provides a space in which people's hearts feel encouraged to soften, and forgiving, assisting and rebuilding become somehow easier.
Follow up some links to "telling our stories" at ForgivenessNet's Index of Main Themes